Immune System Webinar – 24th March

Wed, Mar 24, 2021 5:00 PM

Coming out of Covid in best of health

Join Rendezvous’ Barbara Brudenell-Bruce as she talks to health coach Eva Akerholm in this informative session.

Covid has impacted our diets, exercise routine and most importantly our social lives. We are all desperate to socialise.

Health coach Eva Akerholm glows positive energy; she’s joining us to share how to get fit and well for a post lockdown different world. She practices a passionate approach to support people to become healthier while finding a balance in their life.

• Hear why staying inside with lack of fresh air is harmful and why getting outside will help our immune system.

• Why fear and uncertainty impacts our wellbeing and causes stress

• Why an extended period of isolation with so little human contact is mentally challenging

Please join us, send in your questions (barbara@rendezvous-london.com) and Eva will answer throughout the session, or write them live, on the group chat.

We want you to be your strongest self when you join us for our series of events at some time…..this year!

Book Here – https://www.eventbrite.com/e/immune-system-webinar-tickets-141528442381

Rendezvous gives you wings!

What a pleasure it was to host our first event since February.  Our group of 30 socially distanced guests arrived for a party and what a back-drop we gave them!

Things have changed since we last saw you.  There are a whole bunch of rules. Guestlist, check.  Name badge, check.  Heat test, check!  Coats yes, but it’s a rack and the staff aren’t allowed to touch your things.  Kiss Barbara, no.  Kiss Lou, no.  Elbow bump, yes.  Touch anyone, by mistake, no.  Pick up a welcome drink, yes, choose from five tasting tables for a bumper wine tasting lasting two hours, hell yes!

28:50, the luxurious Covent Garden space and sister restaurant to the well-established Marylebone Lane restaurant of the same name. Some thirty wines are available by the glass, bottle and carafe and start at a very wallet-friendly £4.70 for 125ml all served alongside a chic European menu.

28:50’s sommelier Daniel Sanna and the group’s super star Gina Lowen assembled the stars of his wine list and we were treated to tasting tables including:

Kingscote (East Grinstead)/Berne (Provence)

Kingscote Sparkling Brut 2018, Kingscote Sparkling Rosé Brut 2018, Kingscote Chardonnay 2019, Kingscote Silvan Bacchus 2019, Berne Inspiration Berne Espirit Méditerranée

Champagnes & Chateaux

Champagne Canard Duchene Cuvée Leonie N.V and Champagne Canard Duchene Cuvee Leonie Rose.

Château de Candie, Viognier

2019 Vintage, 28:50s own Vineyards at the Chateau de Candie in Chambéry, Savoie, France.

Friarwood

2016 Domaine des Masque, Syrah ‘Exception’

Marvellous Mirabeau

And lastly, our friends Peter, Natalie and Richard from Mirabeau showed up with a show-stopper of a table full of tasting treats including magnums of Mirabeau Pure, Mirabeau Sparkling rose and a tasty drink for those on the move (or perhaps the train or Uber home) rose in a can!

We were treated to what seemed like a never-ending flow of delicious canapes from Head Chef Julien Baris, including mini cheeseburgers, spicy hummus on beetroot crackers, truffle arancini and decadent artichoke tempura with aioli sauce.

The night ended on a high and us all wishing we could have stayed on and on.  As good nights roll this has got to be one of the best!

 

 

 

A lovely time in the Vines

Mirabeau brought some Southern French fun into our homes and gardens with a very special virtual rosé experience. It was lovely seeing you, chairs pulled up, glass of the pink poured, and joining us for an entertaining hour.

Stephen and Jeany Cronk, founders of Mirabeau en Provence, were live from Domain Mirabeau, their sumptuous wine estate tucked away in the heart of Provence. With their good-humoured story about the ups and downs and process of establishing the UK’s most popular rosé brand it was a welcome break from the Lockdown blues.

 

Mirabeau Rosé Gin Fizz

Mirabeau Rosé Gin Fizz
From www.mirabeauwine.com

Serves 2

INGREDIENTS
50ml Mirabeau Rosé gin
15ml lemon juice
2 tsp sugar syrup
Mirabeau La Folie sparkling rosé
Lemon slices & rosemary
Ice cubes

METHOD

1. Pour the gin, lemon juice and sugar syrup in a cocktail shaker and fill up
with ice cubes.

2. Shake well until the outside of the shaker feels cold then strain into two
glasses filled with more ice.

3. Top up with Mirabeau La Folie sparkling rosé.
Garnish with a slice of lemon and a sprig of fresh rosemary.

4. Sending you warm wishes from Provence and enjoy!

Jeany and Stephen x

Podcast – “Divorce Needn’t be Complicated”

While in Covid-lockdown, Rendezvous chatted to The Divorce Surgery. If you or someone close to you needs advice on divorcing the considerate way, read on.

The Divorce Surgery was set up by Samantha Woodham and Harry Gates both family law barristers who were tired of seeing couples fighting in court; left at the end much poorer, emotionally, and financially.

When it comes to divorce it is an emotional roller coaster. One moment you will perceive ‘I’ve got this’ only to feel upside down and have no idea where to turn moments later. The challenge is often not knowing where to begin. Divorce remains shrouded in stigma; associated with acrimony, stress, and huge legal fees. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

If you do want legal advice but are anxious about cost then consider using a fixed-fee, One Couple One Lawyer service. The Divorce Surgery can direct the disclosure process and provide an expert barrister to advise you both together as to what a court would consider fair.

 

Listen to Rendezvous talking to The Divorce Surgery

podcast

 

Latest Ideas for an Outdoor Date!

With summer on our doorstep and sunshine in the sky, it’s the perfect setting for an outdoor date! Check out our recommendations for London enjoying fresh air romance in natural settings.

The rules around being outside and with whom are changing every week, so we always recommend that you follow any protocols that are advised. That said with summer on our doorstep and sunshine in the sky, it’s really ideal for an outdoor date. Here are our recommendations in London for enjoying inspiring fresh air romance in natural settings. Perfect for walking and talking without anything but the view to distract you.

 

London

The Royal Parks in London are the most accessible by foot or bicycle so you can avoid travelling on public transport. You may also want to try Wheely for car transport as they have strict protocols around cleaning of vehicle interiors and drivers wearing masks. Regents Park is glorious and the perfect time to visit the rose garden. St James Park and Green Park come with Royal views of Buckingham Palace and Spencer House, as well lots of ducks, swans and geese to feed. Hyde Park offers the opportunity to venture off the pathways and into the longer grass and under the trees that leave you feeling like you’re in the middle of the countryside. Pack a picnic, water or wine for a lazy afternoon as an outdoor date. Top tip: go super early and pick up a croissant and coffee.

 

Country walks are now allowed, and if you have a car to drive out all the better. If not rent one for 24 hours to give you the freedom. Government guidance says “day trips to outdoor open spaces, in a private vehicle, are permitted’. If you love Winnie the Pooh, then it’s time you visited the spaces that inspired his stories. Ashdown Forest is not far out of London and here is a guide to making the walk.

 

If you need fresh sea air then the South Downs Way offer spectacular views and plenty of space to feel free for your outdoor date. The Thames outside London offers some of the most beautiful riverside walks within proximity of the capital. Goring Gap and the Riverside Path are a perfect place to experience the beauty.

 

Mid evening walks are great while it’s light so late, and also when you don’t have to dodge so many people out and about. Pack a bottle of champagne and glasses for a stroll along the Embankment – a lovely spot as the sun goes down and the lights on the Battersea Bridge begin to twinkle like a diamante necklace. Walk down Old Church Street in Chelsea to the garden at the end for moments of quiet contemplation.

 

Slowly and surely the opportunity to interact and venture out is resuming. Whatever you do, be safe and careful, always following the guidance, and before long, we’ll be sharing our top tips on places open for you to dine and clink glasses like we used to.

The Divorce Surgery; divorcing the considerate way

Tuesday 2nd June
1:30 – 2:15 (with 15 mins for questions)
Online, please register – Register Here    No Password

*We realise this is a sensitive subject, so can remain anonymous by choosing video off.

When it comes to divorce it is an emotional roller coaster. One moment you will perceive ‘I’ve got this’ only to feel upside down and have no idea where to turn moments later. The challenge is often not knowing where to begin. Covid-19 is putting relationships on the line.

Divorce remains shrouded in stigma; associated with acrimony, stress, and huge legal fees. But it does not have to be that way. If you do want legal advice but are anxious about cost then consider using a fixed-fee, One Couple One Lawyer service. The Divorce Surgery was set up by Samantha Woodham and Harry Gates both family law barristers who were tired of seeing couples fighting in court; left at the end much poorer, emotionally, and financially. The Divorce Surgery can direct the disclosure process and provide an expert barrister to advise you both together as to what a court would consider fair.

This webinar is useful for not just members in this situation but those who have friends, or even children, who are experiencing problems.  The light-hearted Zoom meeting will explore different subjects around Separation and Divorce.

5 tips for Dating Through Divorce, by Samantha Woodham of The Divorce Surgery

Dating and divorce aren’t words you often see in the same sentence. But the reality is that they often come together. It is entirely possible to do divorce and dating well, and at the same time, so we thought we’d set out a few tips and pitfalls we have picked up in our many divorce cases to help you do just that.

Divorce is a life change, and as you go through the process you are navigating towards a new chapter of your life – a new you. You’ll want to explore all sorts of questions – where you want to live, work, what do you want to prioritise, how do you want to feel about yourself. And dating may well be part of that journey of self-discovery.

  1. Don’t let your Old Relationship Define your New One

The best start is a good ending. If you can manage divorce well, you are far more likely to start a new relationship well. Why? Because if you can rationalise the relationship you had, what your drew from it in terms of positives and what you can happily leave behind, you will have worked out what you want for the future. You can then make engaged and conscious choices about what you are looking for in life, whether you want to date, yet or at all, who you want to date and why.

So how to end a divorce well? Mindset is crucial. If you go into a divorce thinking it will be an awful battle, it will be. As a society we have an ingrained preconception that divorce is stressful, ruinously expensive and takes far too long. But it really does not have to be that way. You may not have chosen to get divorced, but the way you divorce is your choice. Don’t allow divorce to become something that is happening to you – take charge of it. If you get into a mindset of engaging and taking charge, you will immediately start to feel better and more empowered.

The most important message to understand is that divorce is a shared problem. The only way to divorce well, and by that I mean extricate yourself with an outcome which is legally fair to you, with dignity, for affordable cost and in a sensible timescale, is if you both divorce well. The reason for that is simple: either you both agree on an arrangement with regards the division of your finances and/or the care of your children or a Judge will impose a decision on you (after a long, expensive and often painful Court process). So the sooner you start engaging in what is fair for both of you, and your children, rather than what you each want, the better, because you will then be making choices in the way a Judge would.

But many couples do not know what ‘fair’ looks like in their situation. Legal advice is important, because these are huge decisions with lifelong ramifications, and because a Judge will only approve an agreement which is legally fair. Many couples, however, still do not realise that they do not have to instruct separate solicitors to obtain legal advice on divorce. One Couple One Lawyer services, as offered at The Divorce Surgery, enable separating couples to get joint impartial advice together from one lawyer for a fixed cost. You can read more about our One Couple One Lawyer services here https://www.thedivorcesurgery.co.uk/what-is-one-couple-one-lawyer/

  1. Do be Respectful towards your Ex

This is a person you chose to marry. Maybe you also chose to have children together. Unless you are extremely unlucky, there should be a significant amount of happy memories you created together. Don’t let the ending contaminate everything that went before.

Treating divorce as a shared problem is a good place to start, because it will focus both of your minds on the benefits of working together. It’s an emotional roller-coaster, and of course can be fraught at times. When you find yourselves getting at each other take some space (even moving to another room if you’re in the same home). Remember you are navigating a process- it can be stressful at times but 42% of all married couples go through it. A good tip is to speak to your ex in the same way you would a work colleague – be civil and reasonable.

And when it comes to dating- don’t hold back in communicating with your ex. The instinct is to hide it for fear of upsetting your ex. But actually, it’s much worse finding out about something after the fact than knowing in advance. If you want to start dating again, try to include this in a conversation as early as you can. And if you have children, please be extremely sensitive. There is no need for your children to know you are dating, and if you’ve met someone special and over time you decide you would like to introduce them to your children, speak to your ex about it first. Be prepared to be patient – It may take your ex a little longer than you to come to terms with this transition, but it will be so much better for your children if you can present a new partner with a neutral narrative both parents can agree on.  At The Divorce Surgery we often advise separated couples together on many issues surrounding post separation co-parenting, and this is one which often comes up. Please do reach out for joint advice if you think it could help you both- these can be choppy waters to navigate, but if you put in the effort to do it well it will be so worth it in the long run.

  1. Don’t be a Divorce Bore!

Your date does not want to hear about your ex. They don’t want to live your divorce drama (although if you’ve followed the first two tips hopefully the drama is to a minimum).

The best way not to be a Divorce Bore is to divorce well. If you’re going through a divorce process which is on the whole constructive and focussed, you just won’t feel the need to talk to your date about it. It’s also important to be able to engage properly with the person in front of you, and without hang-ups from your old relationship invading your conversation. If you’re unable to go on a date without talking about your divorce, reflect on whether it’s the right time for you to be dating yet or not.

  1. Do Ditch the Guilt

If you take nothing else from this article, please take this: you have nothing to feel guilty about. 42% of marriages end in divorce. You are not a failure. You are just going through a life change. As a society we continue to stigmatise divorce, but we need to get over it. It is so damaging for your mental health to be in a negative mindset. So re-frame it. Think of the various challenges your family and friends are also going through. This is a challenge, yes, but one that you can and will overcome.

And don’t feel guilty about dating! Provided that you are separated, and you have treated your ex respectfully then you are allowed to start exploring what your new life apart will be like. And that includes dating (if you want it to). Equally, if you find out your ex is dating, please don’t feel despondent. What’s really tough about the emotional fallout of divorce is that you will both go through the same stages but at different times. It’s extremely common for one spouse to start dating long before the other can even contemplate it. But that’s ok. It’s not a race. Far better to spend the time building yourself up, learning who you want to be with your newfound lease of life, than rushing into a relationship for the sake of it.

  1. Do be Open to New Adventures

Don’t confuse dating with commitment. You are coming out of a committed relationship- there is no need (unless you want to and you are ready) to launch straight into another one. Of course communicate openly with the people you are dating so they know where you are coming from, but use this time to have fun! And if you don’t want to date and can’t bear the idea of it- that’s fine too. Reclaim this time for yourself. Do not allow well-meaning family and friends to frog-march you into some dreadful blind date if you don’t fancy it. That’s three hours of your life you could have been having a glass of wine and watching Netflix!

Just be positive- focus on you and what you want and need, and whatever adventures are waiting for you will surely come.

Mirabeau en Provence: Live from the vines!

Thursday 11th June.
5 pm – 6 pm
Online, please register – Register Here  Password – Vines

Join us for some Southern French fun straight to your homes and gardens with a very special virtual rosé experience.

Stephen and Jeany Cronk, founders of Mirabeau en Provence will join us live from Domaine Mirabeau tucked away in the heart of Provence.

They’ll share their inspiring story and the process of making the wonderful wines that we all love.  Social distancing means a trip to a favourite vineyard, wine bar or vintners is still off the agenda.  So, friends, members and rosé lovers you are invited to an exclusive online wine experience on zoom.

Location: Zoom Webinar
Date: Thursday 11th June. 5 pm – 6 pm
Ticket Price: Free

PS To savour the taste with us pick up a bottle of their “Pure’ wine while it’s promotion:-
https://www.waitrosecellar.com/provence/mirabeau-pure-provence-rose-603980

Online, please register – Register Here Password – Vines

Dating Post-Apocalyptic Style in a House Share – What Could Possibly Go Wrong!

When a day that you happen to know is Wednesday starts off sounding like Sunday, there is something seriously wrong somewhere” The Day of the Triffids (1951), John Wyndham’s 1951 post-apocalyptic novel.

Don’t you know the feeling…

 

I hope this finds readers safe and well.  I am, understandably, now starting to go feral in furlough.  The domestic goddess phase has, well, phased. Closet de-cluttered, under the kitchen sink clean, inside the dishwasher and washing machine surgically shiny.  Yes, yes, done. Domestic goddess bored.

 

So bored that I have been getting back on that thing called the telephone and, instead of fidgeting and looking at what my friends are wearing on Zoom calls, actually having a good old listen!

 

My current fascination is the lives of my single friends, and by chatting with them I’ve realised how many members of our dating network live with flat mates in a house share, rented or owned accommodation, and either full time or during the week.  Long gone are the days when the sharing economy was just for millennials, now it is for all ages.

 

My friend Harry (55) owns his house and wants to retrain (as a business coach). Since his children live with their mother, he decided to rent out his spare room during the week to pay for his studies. He joined the 40+ house share site Cohabitas and started looking for a suitable housemate. He found divorcee Katie (52) who works in London during the week… So, Katie and Harry began living together in a house share and now it seems that familiarity, far from breeding contempt, has started to fan the flames of attraction – at least for Harry!

 

My friend Lizzy (31) works for a social impact charity and lives in a house share called Lyvly, which facilitates harmonious living and work/life balance for 22 to 36-year-old young professionals. They match on age and encourage new friendships, by highlighting areas of common interest and promoting ways to meet the rest of the community. New members meet their future housemates via video call and visit the flat via 3D tour. Just before lock down, Lizzy met a man that she really connected with on Lyvly’s community app, doing a thing called ‘speed friendsting’ (a weekly opportunity to meet 2 other members you don’t know yet via video chat). She’s been telling me how they have been planning their first face to face date.

 

Is fancying your flatmate a symptom of Lockdown fever?

 

Before Lockdown Katie and Harry were like ships that passed in the night, or rather at breakfast, since Katie’s job meant she often worked late. But when Lockdown happened Katie was furloughed, so she decided to stay in London and, in the spirit of community, spend Lockdown with Harry rather than embrace solitude in the country. Suddenly, like shipwreck survivors marooned on a desert island, they found themselves thrown together – girl, boy, flesh and blood. Him Tarzan, her Jane. Maybe not quite, but things were definitely different. Previously they wouldn’t have gone to the movies, dinner, or concerts together. Now, eating together felt sort of date-like, as did exploring each other’s taste in music and TV. Intimate, but also awkward.

 

Feeling somewhat confused, Harry asked me to suggest some steps he might take to deal with the situation – for both their sakes.

 

Three steps.

 

Think about the reasons why you might want a relationship with your roommate. What is it about them that you find attractive right now? Do you have legitimate reasons for wanting to take the next step? If it just boils down to scarcity of choice, you need to know that they’re looking at things the same way, both physically and emotionally. Face it, if you are simply longing for intimate human contact, then it’s probably not a good idea.

 

Determine their feelings. Look for signs that your roommate has feelings for you. What is your roommate’s body language telling you? An interested person will make a lot of eye contact, touch you and lean into your personal space. They want to give you their full attention.

 

Be honest with yourself. When we have feelings for someone, we tend to see what we want to see. If it is unclear to you whether or not your roommate has feelings for you, chances are they don’t. 

 

Fight the urge to confess all. It may come to this eventually, but slow down. Give yourself time to see where your feelings are coming from. You may emerge from this lockdown in a wonderful new deep, supportive relationship. It is probably safest to focus on friendship and support, not muddying the water with full-on relationship pressure…. At least, not just yet.

 

Love in Lockdown…. 

 

While it’s wonderful to start a virtual relationship in lockdown, here are a few tips I gave Lizzy:

Try not to project too far into the future: It’s not helpful because your mind is not a crystal ball. Take each day as it comes. Hour by hour even.

Talking to others can help put things into perspective. And if you can’t talk, write your feelings and thoughts down on paper to help you question how rational you’re being.

Don’t watch the news 24/7: You can get overwhelmed. Just tune in to the news at 6pm and maybe one of the national bulletins. That is enough. Reality isn’t just what’s going on in the outside world.

 

Post Lockdown flat sharing

 

Lyvly predict the major trends could be:

A greater emphasis on the importance on who you live with, as you may spend most of your days with them.

An increased demand for better living conditions, with wider rooms and the space to work from home.

The need to belong to a group or community that can help during hard times.

 

Everybody is learning a lot about themselves in lockdown. We value our freedoms a little bit more and this crisis has given perspective to many things we took for granted or considered essential. Most importantly, lockdown can teach us to value the real things that matter most, like friends and family and your house around you.